My in-laws are a problem!
I am 24 years old, married to my college boyfriend Lou, with whom I have a 2-year-old baby boy. I got pregnant while I was in my junior year in college so I had to stop my studies to marry Lou and then to give birth to a bouncing baby boy.
When our baby was six months old, I asked Lou if I could finish my college course and he readily agreed. I was so happy to be back in school and meet new friends in college. My friends would often invite me for snacks at our favorite fast-food restaurant. Often on weekends, they would invite me for an outing at the beach. I always asked Lou if he wanted to come along but he would beg off as he enjoys being busy with his computer or watching basketball games on tv. It made me feel good having fun with my friends. When my in-laws learned of what I was doing, they expressed their disapproval, saying I was now a married woman with a baby boy and I shouldn’t act like a carefree school girl. Lou told me how they felt but he said it was okay with him, as he wanted me to have fun.
Recently, my in-laws said they want us to move in with them as their house is quite big and their children are now living in Manila or Cebu. Only Lou and I are here so they feel we should move in with them to save us from having to rent our place. Lou and I talked about this and he says it is up to me if we do decide to move in with his parents. It would be a big help financially as we are paying a big amount for the house we are now renting. But I am wary about living with them as they have a tendency to poke their noses into our lives. What do you think?
Dear Young Wife,
You should thank your stars for your husband Lou. He seems like a wonderful guy who loves you very much and wants you to be happy. I can understand your trepidation about living with your in-laws. It might cause a lot of problems later on as they are very conservative and want you to be a stay-at-home wife and mother. I think this is between you and Lou. If he sees nothing wrong in your outings with your young friends, then that is the important thing. You have a treasure in your man, you lucky girl, you!