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Bacolod City, PhilippinesWednesday, March 23, 2011

He told me he preferred her!

Dear Tita,

Rudy and I began living together after he broke off with his former girlfriend, Malu. I agreed to this arrangement because he promised to marry me as soon as he would get promoted to a higher position. I am employed as a department head of a big company here, and because I have a bigger salary than Rudy, I am the one paying for the rent of our apartment and all the other household expenses. I didn’t mind because I do love him very much. He is the first serious relationship in my life. However, a couple of months ago, I noticed that he was always talking on his celfone and whenever I got near him, he would lower his voice or walk away. I also read loving text messages on his celfone from a woman. When I asked him about it, he brushed it off as nothing to worry about. But my suspicions were aroused, and one day I decided to follow him after he got off from work. He went into a restaurant downtown and when I looked through the glass window, I saw he was with his former girlfriend Malu!

I decided to confront them both and he was shocked when he saw me in front of them. I demanded to know why he was cheating on me. He couldn’t answer and I burst into tears. Finally I asked him pointblank which one of us he really loved. I got the shock of my life when he said he chose her! I ran out of the restaurant and went home crying. That day I took all my things and went to live with my best friend Cora. She tried to console me in my despair. It was the most traumatic experience in my life. The heartbreak was more than I could bear.

Recently Rudy has been calling me and begging me to forgive him. He wanted us to be together again. I haven’t answered him because the hurt is still fresh. Every time I remember how he embarrassed me in front of Malu, I hate him all over again. But the thing is, I do love him still. What should I do?


Dear Bewildered,

I don’t know about you girl, but if it were me, I wouldn’t give him the time of day. How could you even still be in love with him after what he had done? I suspect he wants to reconcile with you because he needs someone to pay for his needs and probably, Malu can’t do that.

He is not only a cheat but an ingrate! Forget him! You have a good job that pays well. Go out and meet new friends. Give yourself a chance to meet and fall in love with a better guy. This one is a loser!


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