He’s not my son
I met Edna at a party in Iloilo. She was introduced to me by a
co-worker of mine. Edna and I hit it off right away and I began making
frequent trips to Iloilo just to visit her. I liked her outgoing ways
and her vivacious personality. She was very friendly to everyone she
It wasn’t long before I began courting her and
she accepted me right away. When my co-worker learned that we were on,
he took me aside and cautioned me to slow down as Edna had a reputation
for having a lot of boyfriends. I was so madly in love with her that I
didn’t care about her past – I only knew that I wanted her to be my
It was during a trip to Boracay that Edna and
I became intimate. I immediately knew that she wasn’t a virgin and she
admitted this. It didn’t change my feelings for her. I became more
determined to marry her. After a few weeks, she called me and told me
she was delayed. I immediately left for Iloilo and she confirmed that
she was pregnant after taking a pregnancy test. We decided to get
married right away.
When I told my parents, they
were against the marriage as they didn’t know anything about her. But I
had made up my mind and so we got married in Iloilo with only our
families present. We decided to settle down in Bacolod where I have a
job. Edna had a difficult pregnancy and she had to be placed on bed
rest on the sixth month. I was so worried, especially when she started
to go into labor before the ninth month.
birth to a baby boy through C-section. We named him Eddie after her. We
tried but Edna didn’t get pregnant anymore so we showered Eddie with
love, being our only child. When Eddie was only 10 years old, Edna was
diagnosed with cancer of the breast. It was a devastating shock for us.
She lost a lot of weight and during the last months of her life, I
witnessed how she suffered as the cancer had already begun to spread.
On her last day, she motioned for me to come closer. I did and she
whispered that she was begging for forgiveness as she had lied to me
all these years. She told me that Eddie was not my son. She was already
pregnant by her married ex-boyfriend when we got married and she was
afraid I would leave her, so she kept it a secret all this time. I was
in deep shock over what she told me. I couldn’t stay angry at her
because she looked so pitiful at that stage. She made me promise that I
would never abandon Eddie before she died in my arms. Eddie was
heartbroken over his mother’s death.
changed in my feelings toward Eddie. I still love him even if he isn’t
my son. I haven’t told my family about what his mother told me. I am
tempted to tell them but they might change their attitude towards him.
STILL A FATHER
Dear Still a Father,
don’t think you have to tell them about Eddie not being your son. This
was between you and your wife. She had bared her heart and soul to you
on her last moments and you promised never to abandon Eddie.
I admire you for feeling the same towards the little boy despite
knowing the truth about his paternity. As for revealing it to your
family, you must use your own good judgment. If you think it would be
good for him, then go ahead. But if the results might be unfavorable,
why complicate matters?