She cheated on my son
My son, Eddie, was an overseas worker in Saudi. He is my only child as my husband died after Eddie was born. I had to struggle to make both ends meet with my salary as a third grade teacher in a private school.
After Eddie graduated from college, he asked permission to marry his girlfriend, Cita, and I gave my consent willingly. Eddie's salary here wasn't enough for their needs as Cita got pregnant again soon after giving birth to their first child. With all their expenses, Eddie finally decided to work in Saudi, and his in-laws helped finance his trip. He asked me to look after his family while he was away.
Things got better for Cita and the kids with the money Eddie sent every month from Saudi. They moved to a bigger apartment and Cita enjoyed buying nice clothes for herself and new appliances for their apartment. After two years, I noticed that Cita was often out with her friends as she would leave the kids with me, saying she had to attend to something important. It was after a neighbor of hers told me that she would often see a young man at her apartment that I became suspicious.
Early one morning, I went to her place to ask Cita what was going on. It took a long time for her to answer my knock on the door and when I got in, I noticed how nervous she was. I pretended to go to the kitchen for a glass of water but before I reached the kitchen, I suddenly opened the door of her bedroom. There was a man in shorts standing by the bed and looking scared. I asked him what he was doing inside the bedroom and Cita answered that he was a relative of hers visiting from Iloilo. I said I will ask her parents who this relative was and Cita tearfully begged me not to. She admitted that he was a friend of hers and that they had been seeing each other for some time. I berated them loudly and demanded that the man leave immediately, which he did.
That day, I contacted Eddie and told him everything. He couldn't believe it and broke down in tears. After a few days, he called and told me that he resigned from his job and was coming home. The day he arrived, he came directly to my house and poured out all his bitterness at what his wife did. When he went to confront her, I told him to be calm and not do anything foolish. I waited for him anxiously the whole day.
That evening, he came with Cita. They informed me that they had talked with his in-laws, who convinced him to forgive his wife and patch up their marriage for the sake of their kids. He is now jobless and living with Cita, who has been nagging him to get a new job. I haven't fully forgiven her for what she has done but Eddie is determined to save his family no matter what. Please advise me on what to do.
Dear Angry Mother,
I can understand why you feel angry at your daughter-in-law's infidelity. Any mother would feel the same.
But Eddie is a grown man, who knows exactly what he is doing. If he is determined to save his family and forgive his wife's cheating, then so be it. Keep your opinions to yourself even if you feel like bursting out in anger. This is a man who loves his wife and kids. He wants to forgive and forget. So let him.
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