How can I tell my
godchild the truth?
My husband Art used to own a successful business here in Bacolod. We had money to spend on luxurious things and expensive gifts to our friends and loved ones. I used to splurge on gifts for my godchild, Tina, whose mother, Mely, is my best friend. We don't have a daughter of our own so I love Tina like my own.
A few years ago, we suffered a major setback when Art's business floundered and we couldn't pay our bank loan. We ended up bankrupt. I had to sell my jewelry and our car to keep us going and, finally, I went back to work. Art became depressed and started drinking. I was too ashamed to tell my friends about our situation so they keep on inviting me to social occasions.
Recently, my godchild Tina told me she is getting married in August and would like me to be a major sponsor at her wedding. I felt so happy for her as I could see how excited she was to have a grand wedding. Secretly, I was dismayed as I know that I would have to give her an expensive gift, being a major sponsor.
Right now, I am really flat broke. I have so many debts to pay and I know I couldn't afford to have a new dress, or buy an expensive gift for Tina's wedding. I know she will be expecting something special from her loving maninay.
This is bothering me a lot. How can I explain the situation to Tina and Mely?
The thing to do is to tell them the truth. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
There are a lot of families here who also suffered major setbacks when the economy went down. Some rich families even had to migrate to the US and hold menial jobs there just to survive. Fortunately, they managed to pull through.
It's time you forget your pride and accept the situation. I'm sure Tina and Mely will understand why you can't afford to give her an expensive gift for her wedding. The love you have shown her in the past must surely be remembered by them forever.