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When my son, Rolly, told me he wanted to marry Ditas, I was vehemently against it as I didn’t think she was good enough for my son. Ditas was a working student as her parents couldn’t afford to send her to college. I tried to convince Rolly to find a girl more suited to our level in society but he wouldn’t budge.
After Ditas graduated from college, she found a job and was able to help her parents send her siblings to school. Rolly had a good paying job and he insisted he was going to marry the woman he loved. Their wedding was attended by their close friends, who could see that I was not happy with the union. Despite my glum face, everyone could see that the newlyweds were very happy.
Ditas tried her best to become close to me but I was still aloof towards her. She would come and visit me, bringing something she cooked especially for me, but I refused to touch it. She didn’t show any resentment to my cold attitude towards her, but continued being caring and polite towards me. When she got pregnant, I was disappointed because I had been hoping that their marriage wouldn’t work and that Rolly would leave her, but they became even closer after their baby boy was born.
When their son was only three years old, Rolly got sick and was diagnosed with cancer. It was a big shock to us. I couldn’t believe that my only son could have this dreadful disease at his young age – 33. We tried to have him treated at a hospital in Manila but after a year, the cancer had spread and Rolly had lost a lot of weight.
Ditas never left his side. She took care of him and nursed him beautifully while at the same time, she also had to take care of their son. This is where I began to change my opinion of her. I could see why Rolly loved her so much. There wasn’t a mean bone in her body, and she kept my spirits up when I felt so down.
During Rolly’s last days, he wanted to go home to their place as he hated to be in the hospital. Ditas hardly slept as he was restless and kept complaining of the pain. She tried to ease his suffering as best as she could. He died in her arms and she held him as long as she could.
Since my son’s death, Ditas has been my rock and savior. She has always been there for me and both she and my grandson are the ones who bring happiness in my life. I wrote this letter so other mothers would not be so hard on their daughters-in-law. I can now say my son’s choice was an excellent one, and even though I lost a son, I have gained a loving daughter. I am forever in her debt.
Please accept my sympathy for your sad loss. I can imagine how devastated you must have been.
I’m glad you have changed your opinion of your daughter-in-law, Ditas. And I’m sure you would want to show her how much you love her and how grateful you are for her unconditional love for your son Rolly. You are really blessed to have such a wonderful daughter-in-law.
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