She loves him, despite…
I am disappointed with my best friend Luisa.
She is beautiful and intelligent but she doesn't seem to mind that her husband, Castor, has been cheating on her for a long time now. They have been married for 15 years and have two beautiful kids. Castor runs a business that was funded by Luisa's father. It is doing very well and has afforded them all the comforts in life.
For some time now, our friends know that Castor has been having affairs with some of their female employees. He even has children by two of his women and is supporting them. Luisa is busy with her civic clubs and is often seen at social functions alone as Castor hates to go to these functions.
A few of our friends tried to tell Luisa about what her husband is doing, but she refused to believe them and has cut off her friendship with them. I myself have seen him with his latest paramour in a cozy restaurant and I have been tempted to tell her about it. But I have held back because I don't want to ruin our close friendship.
I cannot understand why a woman as smart as she could close her eyes to her husband's infidelity. Doesn't she know that she is now the object of pity among her friends for being played for a fool by her own husband? Please advise me on what to do.
A CONCERNED FRIEND
Dear Concerned Friend,
It is difficult to answer your question as I don't know her personally.
Perhaps, Luisa likes the lifestyle to which she has become accustomed to and doesn't want to rock the boat. Or perhaps, she loves Castor so desperately that she would rather put up with his infidelities rather than lose him. No one ever really knows what ties some people together.
But there is a breaking point to a wife's patience. When Luisa reaches this point, nothing can stop her from giving up on him. As the saying goes, “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”. I know this only too well.