I was betrayed
I had my first boyfriend at 17. Tonette was my first love and I was so happy to be his girlfriend. He told me he loved me too and we were always chatting on the phone, texting or sneaking out to see each other as my mother was very strict.
I tried to say no when he wanted to have sex with me but he was so insistent that I didn't have the strength to refuse. Afterwards, he grew cold and began seeing other girls. It broke my heart but I couldn't do anything. The only person I confided in was to my best friend, Annie. She promised to keep my secret forever.
When I was in my senior year in college, I met Romy, an engineering graduate. He was so gentlemanly and caring that I fell for him right away. I admired the way he respected me and how nice his conservative family was. We made plans to get married as soon as he got a promotion from their company. I told Annie everything about our plans.
One day, Romy visited looking strange and aloof. I asked him why and he told me that he found out about what had happened between me and my former boyfriend Tonette. I wanted to deny everything but I could see that it wouldn't do any good.
I had to admit it was true. From that time on, our relationship changed. Romy became distant and cold. After a while, he just drifted away. I knew it was Annie who told him as she was the only one I confided to. When I confronted her, she admitted what she did. I stopped talking to her from then on. She has tried to get in touch but I refused.
DISAPPOINTED FRIEND S
Dear Disappointed Friend,
Rule Number I – Never confide your deepest secrets unless you are prepared for your confidante to tell someone else. You never can tell if she might become envious of your happiness and ruin everything.
Rule Number 2 – Get over it and get on with your life. Be happy. Find someone new. Life is too short for resentments.
Rule Number 3 – Always remember Rule Number I.