They don’t want me
in their family
My mother got pregnant by my father, who was a married man,
when she was just 18 years old. After she gave birth to me, her mother
took care of me as my mother went abroad to work as a caregiver.
After a while, she got married to an older American and settled in
Wisconsin. I tried to keep in touch by writing to her often and sending
her my pictures, but she probably was too busy with her own family to
keep in touch with me.
When I was nine
years old, my Lola died and my father got me to live with him and his
family. At first, I was treated well by his wife and their kids. I
tried my best to make them like me but I could also sense that they
would get jealous if my father showed me more attention so I just kept
We were all shocked when
my father had a stroke that left half of his body paralyzed. I was the
one who took care of him for years as he needed constant care daily. I
didn’t mind serving him as I was happy to do it for my father. I could
see he was grateful for all that I was doing for him even if he could
Everything changed after
my father died. One day, after I came home from visiting his grave at
the cemetery, I found my things outside my room. His wife and kids told
me it was time for me to leave their house as my father was now dead. I
was shocked as I never thought they would throw me out just like that.
I pleaded with them to let me stay but they insisted that I leave.
I felt so alone and abandoned. I was able to stay with a friend of my
Lola, who took pity on me. I know I can’t stay here for long as their
house is small and they are a big family. I cry myself to sleep every
night. Please advise me on what to do.
don’t you write to your mother in Wisconsin and let her know what
happened. She is your mother and she should help you now. If possible,
she should send for you to go to the States and live with her.
But if not, then ask her to help you with expenses for you to continue
your studies until you graduate. Then you can work and support yourself.
You have to be strong and really determined to survive. Who knows? Someday, you might be a successful career woman. Good luck!